Not about Control, but Concern: The Misinformation of the Ego


The union between two A-Type personalities has always been an interesting one, because both appear to have an issue with control and trust. The ego has been the biggest culprit to perceiving situations that  are not there because your mind is there to protect you from threatening situation right? The tendencies to want to take charge in all realms of one’s life tends to be an issue in a relationship because the other half is uncomfortable with the idea that you are trying to change who s/he is. Finally, the concept of concern is misconstrued with control, and misinformation leads to misunderstandings that are the cause of unfortunate breakups.


The ego can be argued as a person’s perceptions about past experiences, as they relate their perceptions of they are, but it’s amazing how emotions can seriously distort everything. I read an article about an article that explained the concepts behind “ego-resiliency” and I often wondered if our ability to bounce back from negative emotional experiences, or adapt to changing stressful environments , was more sub-conscious than conscious. The tendency of an A-type personality is more fight than flight and the perception to remaining resilient may rest in one’s ability make the partner believe that changing is a good thing and make them less uncomfortable. Many of long-lasting couples may have persevered such unrealistic thinking and learned that being able to communicate their feelings about concern and control was key to their longevity.


The discomfort with feeling that you must change who you are to stay in a relationship can lead to your leaving or staying based on two agendas: the need for a sense of security  or the intent that you are going to get something that you are too lazy to get for yourself. Typically those with high self-esteem will cut their loses, but conditions such as loss of financial independence, will that ego resiliency to kick in. Growth and maturity are intangible assets that can reinforce a marriage in the long-term, but it never hurts for be proactive in receiving counseling before you go into a marriage or any long-term relationship with implications, should fate rear it ugly head.

Ego is a part of the conscious that you cannot delude yourself in pretending you are not ruled by it. We humans are all fallible and should never be too proud to apologize for actions as a result of misunderstandings.  Concern is typically a good thing, unless you become concerned about a negative impression or feeling, but control, whether positive or negative, is always short-lived and will change when you least expect it.

The karma by an ill-advised ego will always lead to negative outcomes as a result of poor decision-making.

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Solving the Weight Loss Puzzle: The Benefits of Herbs

We all choose our own solutions to the challenges that are affecting our current lifestyle and how we adapt to the results depend on whether they meet our expectations. We live in a world of vanity and the marketing frenzy on weight loss programs appear to be thriving off celebrities who too are battling with weight loss. Establishing a balance between, diet, exercise, and sleep to maintain a healthy weight has always been easier said than done.This effort recalls more than just genetics or what we eat, but the chemistry behind what we eat. Our body is its own puzzle with its own chemical makeup, but we continue to rest our laurels on a one size fits all philosophy. Many “accredited” resources will warn you that natural supplements aren’t necessary safe, but you must do your own research and determine what works for you.


The caffeine stimulant in this herb will increase your metabolism to start burning fat, but if you have heart problems (and on medication), you are encouraged not to take this supplement. Risk factors for heart disease tend to be additional hurdles to weight loss.The caffeine stimulant in this herb will increase your metabolism to start burning fat, but if you have heart problems (and on medication), you are encouraged not to take this supplement. Risk factors for heart disease tend to be additional hurdles to weight loss.

Coleus Forskohlii

Coleus forskohlii is an Ayurvedic herb that contains a potent natural fat-burning substance known as Forslean, but it is safer than guarana because it contains no stimulants. You would typically find this herb mixed with others in a weight loss supplement. Research, research, research….you may not need any of those extra substances to help your cause.


Many of the latest weight loss systems on the market contain this herb and what makes this herb different is the fat burning effect similar to caffeine and yohimbe. but without the side affects. Fucoxanthin is a natural carotenoid from brown seaweed has shown promise for boosting fat burning with no stimulant effects.

What makes this herb more attractive than the previous is that you take a brown seaweed extract with fucoxanthin as a supplement alone and this natural thermogenic is a great option for those who cannot take caffeine because of risk factors for heart disease such as high blood pressure.

The debate over herbs and supplements become a moot point when you consider chronic conditions, like hypertension,  and you can’t ingest enough of the herb to be effective. Guarana not only neutralizes blood pressure medications, but it serves to remedy hypertension. This is a case for little to moderate hypertension cases, but you know most physicians consider holistic medicine to more of money lost , as opposed to cheaper and just as effective treatment for their patients. Do your own research and take charge of your #health and #wellness. The reliance on synthetic drugs leads to this opioid crisis that some how became more important than the meth and crack epidemics, but I will save this for another post.

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